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As the parent of a teenage girl, you need to prepare for a range of noxious and rebellious behaviors that can make us say things we later regret. Your daughter is experiencing a surge of hormones that make her weep one minute and laugh hysterically the next.

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As a therapist and the mother of three teenagers myself, I know firsthand that the more you push your kids, the more they get defensive and dig in their heels. They become reactive in the form of explosiveness or shutting down and ignoring you. Clamming up or exploding are both ways your teenagers attempt to manage their stress and defend themselves. In fact, these may be the only ways your teen knows how to communicate when things get intense—which of course only causes more conflict.

You find your child online chatting with her friends when she is supposed to be doing her schoolwork. You and your child are living in two different realities.

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Ask your child, honestly, why she is chatting. Once you know what is going on, try saying:. I also know that you need to pass this test tomorrow. Instead of feeling like they have to defend themselves against you, they actually listen. Remind yourself that what he says and does is not a reflection on you. In fact, I tell parents to repeat this mantra to themselves before talking to their kids:.

He may be making a poor choice, but the truth is, he might not yet have the skill set to make a better one. So your job is to help guide him to better choices so he can, in turn, develop better problem-solving skills. Try to just focus on your job as a parent, it will help you be less emotional.

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Tell yourself that this is simply a problem to solve and part of parenting business as usual. Ask your teen for his ideas and be collaborative. When you let him see that you have faith in his abilities and he has the space to work things out on his own, you will begin to develop true confidence in him. Instead, try opening a conversation with:. Let your teen know that his problems are his to solve. But, be sure to let him know that you are there to help him figure out solutions, to consult with him.

Oh, and be sure to let him deal with the natural consequences of his behaviors. Owning the problem means owning the consequences. Your ultimate goal is to help your child think for himself.

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Thinking for himself will, in turn, help him feel like he has some control over his world. Listen openly to what he says and ask him to think critically about each choice. What will work and what will be problematic about each decision? What would be the natural consequences of each choice, and how would he feel about dealing with that? As soon as you need something from your child so that you can feel better, you have put yourself in a vulnerable position because he does not have to give it to you. And your teen will become more and more defiant or passively compliant—neither of which is good.

You can validate yourself and solve your own problems. Your problem is to decide how you will choose to behave toward him. And your child will be less defiant because he will have no one to resist.

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Another rule of thumb is to avoid doing anything until you and your child have both calmed down. You can say nothing. You can take a few minutes or more if you need to. When emotions have evened out, you can sit down and talk with him. So if either you or your child is upset, pause and come back when you can address things in a calmer way.

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This is called self-talk and it really works. The good news is that the more you refuse to engage, the easier it will get to stay calm. For more than 25 years, Debbie has offered compassionate and effective therapy and coaching, helping individuals, couples and parents to heal themselves and their relationships.

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You must log in to leave a comment. Don't have an ? Create one for free! The way I do this is to ask what he wants and why, then outline clear expectations on how to get there.

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For example, he wanted to buy a car and we sat down and came up with a plan. My son and I have used a lot of the lessons at a site called preparemykid. My 16 year old daughter has become very disrespectful and started doing things a 16 year old girl should not be doing. Up until about 6 months ago my daughter was happy would talk to me about certain things but not all things. I have always been the kind of mother who kept a good amount of control on my daughter due to the world she is growing up in.

She got into trouble at school for taking a pic of another girl in a bathroom selfie and the school put her in ISD for 2 weeks since that is not permitted in the school. I never voiced my opinion of this to her but I did feel it was a bit ridiculous.

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She has started staying in her room allot after that and has become more mouthy. I found out Monday that she has adult relations with a boy Saturday night after I went to bed she snuck out of my house to do stuff that she had no business doing. I am at a loss as to how to fix this before it gets to bad. She will not talk to me about personal stuff anymore and avoids me at all cost.

I did freak out a bunch when I found out about the boy and I did scream at her and now she is mad at me for punishing her for her making a huge mistake. The bad part is I am getting over the Adult relations part I am more upset with the fact that she invited a 18yr old boy to my house and snuck out to do something that she knew I would not approve of.

I talk with a lot of parents, and they tell me their kids talk back to them and disrespect them. The interesting thing is that they only need a small push in the right direction to talk to teen girls well. Hi there, I want suggest what can be the first question you ask that will show your deep concern, and show him that you are on "his" side:. My 14 year old son has taken an interest in girls this year. He plays sports and tends to be on his phone talking to his friends more often now than in the past. I'm glad that he has found a social life as I consider this to be healthy for his personal growth, however I just received an from his teacher where she indicates his grades are in risk of failure.

Even she is surprise by the change. My question ishow do I talk to my son iabout this without coming actos accusatory. Has any parent gone through this before? How did you handled it? Did it work? Did it not? And why. Please be sure to write back and let us know how things. You can also check out our many. I hope. She sounds very typical. It is her job and her developmental stage to push away from you. And guess what our job is?

Be strong, consistent, gentle, loving, and focused.

Hard as hell and when I look back at what we went through, and truthfully, I cannot believe we survived to see him as a decent, capable almost 19 year old. Suffice to say it was a little worse than what you describe with your peanut. Here are my 'tweet size' recommendations for each of your concerns. She needs to do it on her time, not yours.

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It is her job to buck your pleas. Keep asking. Stay 'on message' the greatest advice we got to avoid getting dragged into absurd fights Even if you lose the battle half the time, or she only does half the job you asked, you have also won half the battle and she is the better for it.